IT IS TIME!!!!!

Choosing to walk away from a relationship or marriage before you lose the essence of who you are is not an act of failure, but a profound act of self-preservation. There is a heavy, silent exhaustion that comes from being the only one showing up, the only one pouring, and essentially marrying or dating yourself while your partner remains indifferent. It is a dangerous illusion to believe that staying in a space where you are undervalued will eventually earn you the love you deserve.

 Often, those who take your presence for granted assume you will simply fade into a shadow of yourself—a broken, stagnant version of the person you once were—until there is nothing left to give and, in the most tragic cases, your very life or spirit is lost to the void of neglect.

​In this current age, it is vital to recognize the moment your efforts stop being a contribution and start becoming a sacrifice of your soul. Realize that you cannot pour into a vessel that refuses to hold what you give. True strength is found in the determination to stop, the courage to choose the exit, and the wisdom to prioritize your own healing. Walking away when you still have the strength to do so allows you the grace to seek therapy, find stillness, and rediscover the vibrant person you were meant to be. 

Do not wait until you are a ghost of yourself; choose life, choose peace, and understand that your value is never tied to how much of yourself you are willing to lose for someone who isn't even looking.

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OWNED YOU ABOVE ALL THINGS

At the end of the day, the most important person in your life is you. While it is natural to want to be there for others, you must remember that people often stay close because of what you provide or the value you bring to their lives. 

If your strength, your money, or your health were to fade away, you would quickly see how fast the world keeps turning without you. 

People move on, life continues, and your absence becomes a memory faster than you might think.

​This isn’t about being selfish; it’s about survival and self-respect. You owe it to yourself to be your own biggest priority. Build your self-esteem, protect your mental peace, and invest in your own growth. Don’t wait for others to give you the love and worth you deserve—give it to yourself first. 

When you prioritize your own well-being, you ensure that even if the world walks away, you still have yourself to lean on. Be your own anchor, because you are the only person who will be with you every single step of the way.

WHAT KIND OF A PERSON ARE YOU???

True friendship, love, and kinship are not measured by how loudly we cheer for our own victories, but by how softly we tread around another person’s wounds. When we call ourselves "someone’s person," we are making a silent vow to protect their heart, yet too often, we use our own milestones as weapons of unintended cruelty. It is a shallow kind of loyalty that offers unsolicited advice about biological clocks to a friend waiting for a miracle, or that parades a child’s success before a mother whose arms are heavy with the weight of loss.

​When we boast of a blissful marriage to someone navigating the wreckage of a divorce or the silence of widowhood, we aren't just sharing joy; we are pouring salt into an open fracture. To celebrate a promotion in the face of another’s years of unemployment, or to flaunt a new contract to a peer who just watched their business crumble, is to forget that "time and chance" are fickle masters. Today’s celebration is tomorrow’s memory, and the wheel of fortune never stops turning.

​Being a true companion means understanding that your light doesn't need to blind someone currently sitting in the dark. Empathy is the ability to silence your own trumpet when the person next to you is mourning a song that ended too soon. We must learn the sacred art of the "hushed joy"—the grace to be deeply grateful for our blessings without making them the benchmark for someone else’s perceived failure. Some words, once spoken, carve scars that no amount of time can erase.

 Before you speak, look at the feet of your friend, your sibling, or your partner; see where the shoe pinches, feel the heat of the blister, and realize that the greatest gift you can give is not your success story, but a presence that honors their pain as much as your own peace.

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MUSHIN TO THE WORLD

Mushin is more than just a coordinate on a map of Lagos; it is a living, breathing pulse of energy that never fades, even when the rest of the world retreats into sleep. To the uninitiated, it might seem like a chaotic whirlwind, but to those who call it home, it is a city of "Ajina" and "Ana doru"—a place defined by a rhythmic hustle that mirrors the socio-economic grit of iconic global hubs like Brooklyn, Brixton, or Peckham. It is a land that refuses to be dull, standing as a testament to human resilience regardless of the challenges the day may bring.

​The story of Mushin began over 600 years ago, long before the neon lights and paved roads. What is now a bustling metropolis was once a dense jungle, a wild stretch of land that travelers merely bypassed on their journey toward Eko. It’s transformation started with two legendary hunters: Odu-Abore, who hailed from the ancestral cradle of Ile-Ife, and Aileru, a man of Benin descent whose royal lineage continues today through the Great King of Mushin, Oba Fatai Aileru. These pioneers found common ground under the shade of the Ishin tree, meeting to share stories and the tree’s juicy fruits. This simple act of gathering—Mu Ishin, meaning "pick the Ishin fruit"—eventually gave the town its name and its destiny.

​Today, Mushin is a vibrant mosaic of culture and commerce. While the indigenous Awori people remain the spiritual heart of the land—guarding the sacred Owoye shrine in the bustling Ojuwoye market—the town has opened its arms to everyone. From the Hausa community that anchors Idi-Araba to the enterprising Igbo traders who have made the Ladipo Spare Parts Market a global phenomenon, Mushin is a melting pot. It even boasts its own "GRA" in Papa Ajao, proving that the town contains entire worlds within its borders. 

Bound by Oshodi to the north and Surulere to the south, it has evolved into an industrial engine, driving the production of textiles, beverages, and the essential food supplies of the famous Daleko market.

​To truly understand Mushin is to understand the "Mushine" spirit. There is a saying that if you visit Lagos without stepping foot in Mushin, you haven’t truly experienced Lagos at all. Its people are defined by a unique brand of sagacity: they are vocal, rugged, and fiercely hardworking. While some may only focus on the rough edges or the historical tales of political riots, the true essence of the neighborhood lies in its refusal to accept defeat.

 A Mushine is a natural-born hustler, a courageous soul who fights for their beliefs and possesses the survival instincts to thrive in any corner of the globe.

​From a misunderstood jungle to a global landmark of trade and tenacity, Mushin continues to produce world-class personalities who carry the hood’s "never-say-die" attitude into every field of human endeavor.

 It is a place of history, a place of industry, and above all, a place of pride. 

Welcome to the heart of the hustle. 

Welcome to the story of Mushin.

Written by Empress Deronke Mo 

First written July, 2020

Refined in February,  2026

EMBRACING GROWTH THROUGH EMPATHY AND ENCOURAGEMENT

Life's journey is filled with moments of failure and self-doubt, but these experiences do not  have to define us. Instead, they can be transformative opportunities for growth and learning. 

The way we respond to setbacks is crucial – while criticism can lead to fear and stagnation, support and encouragement can empower us to reflect, learn, and thrive.

When we assume positive intent and separate the person from the mistake, we create a safe space for genuine reflection and growth. 

By asking "What did we learn?" rather than "Why did we fail?", we shift our focus from dwelling on the setback to exploring the opportunities it presents.

This mindset allows us to build resilience and capacity, proving that every setback is a vital step towards a stronger, more thriving self.

 By consistently choosing empathy and encouragement, we don't just fix a moment – we cultivate a thriving mindset that celebrates growth, learning, and success.

Let's choose to uplift and empower each other, fostering a culture of support and encouragement that allows us to grow, learn, and thrive together.

THE UNSEEN WEIGHT OF EMOTIONAL PAIN

   Life is a complex journey filled with unseen struggles and emotional pain. Depression, a silent and often invisible affliction, affects countless individuals, regardless of their outward appearance.

 It's crucial to acknowledge the weight of emotional burdens and the impact of depression on our society.

   We must create a supportive environment where people feel comfortable opening up about their struggles. By talking openly about depression and emotional pain, we can reduce stigma, promote understanding, and encourage individuals to seek help.

   To those suffering in silence, know that you're not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. 

 

Healing is possible, and there is hope for a brighter tomorrow.

Let's work together to foster a sense of community and connection. By doing so, we can help individuals find the support and understanding they need to navigate life's challenges.

THE SILENT TREATMENT: A RELATIONSHIP'S UNSPOKEN LANGUAGE

  In the realm of relationships, communication is the lifeblood that sustains connection and intimacy. But what happens when the conversation becomes a monologue, with one voice dominating the narrative? When one party's thoughts, feelings, and experiences are the sole focus, leaving the other feeling like a mere spectator?

   This one-sided dynamic can be a subtle yet potent toxin, eroding the foundations of trust, empathy, and mutual understanding. It's a silent treatment, not of words, but of attention and care.

   If you're in a relationship where your voice is being drowned out, take a step back and listen to your inner whisper. You deserve to be heard, to be seen, and to be valued. 

   Don't settle for a relationship that's all about them; cultivate one that's a beautiful, harmonious duet.

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November, 2025

Empress Deronke Mo